Today, I felt a shift within myself—an acceptance I didn’t realize I’d been resisting for so long. I’ve decided I’m done chasing clarity where it isn’t freely offered. The endless cycle of overthinking, asking questions, and holding out hope for honesty has been draining. I’ve realized that if someone can’t meet me with open communication, then their silence is answer enough.

It’s strange how clarity can come from the absence of it. For so long, I’ve thought relationships—whether friendships, partnerships, or even professional connections—required closure to move forward. That if something ended, it needed a clear explanation, a mutual understanding, a sense of finality tied up neatly with words.

I used to believe that closure came from understanding, from dissecting the “why” until it made sense.

But today, I see it differently.

I understand that clarity isn’t something you can pull from people who aren’t willing to give it. And that’s okay. Their unwillingness to address the issue doesn’t diminish my worth; it simply draws the boundary for what I’m no longer willing to endure. Not every chapter needs a written ending; sometimes, the page just turns, and that’s enough.

I’ve been chasing answers in places where none existed, exhausting myself trying to find reasons for others’ silence, avoidance, or lack of effort. I asked questions they weren’t willing to answer, sought closure they couldn’t—or wouldn’t—give. And in doing so, I stayed in limbo, tethering myself to situations and people who had already moved on in their own way.

NO MORE.

If someone can’t meet me halfway with honesty, if they can’t address the issue or offer clarity, then I won’t stay stuck in the shadow of their silence. It’s not my job to pull the truth out of them or fill in the blanks they leave behind. I deserve connections where communication is mutual, where I don’t have to beg for transparency or feel like my worth depends on their explanation.

There’s power in letting go without needing all the answers. It’s not about bitterness or shutting people out—it’s about self-respect. About choosing peace over chaos, self-trust over doubt, and moving forward without the need to force what isn’t freely given.

From now on, I’ll take silence as a conclusion, not a challenge to be solved. If they won’t address the issue, I won’t fight for their attention or validation. I’ll simply walk away. No resentment, no prolonged hurt—just a quiet, resolute “we’re done.”

So, now I’m done chasing. I’m done overthinking, replaying conversations, or waiting for words that may never come. If someone can’t offer me clarity, I’ll offer it to myself by walking away. It’s not an easy decision, but it’s the right one.

Today, I’ve given myself permission to close doors when others leave them open just enough to keep me questioning. And that, I think, is what growth feels like.

This feels like a form of freedom I didn’t know I needed.

Love, Ana